1) At the start of your consult, have an idea of what you want the end result to be. Forget the legal stuff, what situation do you want to be in when the dust settles? Communicate that hope along with the facts.
2) At the start of your consult, you should know what the end goal is that you and your representative will be working towards, what it will cost and what factors may impact the end result.
3) You should have a trust and comfort level with your paralegal.
4) If you do not give your paralegal all the information, you will not get your desired result. Be forthright and forthcoming. All is confidential.